I Can’t Believe It’s Been Three Years

KarenBlakeIt is hard for me to believe that 3 years have gone by since my husband passed and my heart was torn in a million pieces. It got me reminiscing about many things. Of course, all the wonderful memories I shared with my husband. All the laughs. The sweet moments of walking hand and hand. The times he would brush by me in the house and always lean down and give me a kiss…and yes, the ups and downs we made it through.

The other thing I was thinking about was how many people reached out to me to share a nice memory of him. So many people I didn’t even know that would send me condolences.

Now I know I shouldn’t judge…but I can’t help it. One of my best friends…never called me once when my husband passed…she just texted me (although she checked in on me by text a few times) I still thought it was very impersonal. At what point do we throw texting out the window and talk to someone voice to voice. I was so hurt she never actually called me. I couldn’t believe something so life shattering to me (her very good friend) and she never picked up the phone to console me. Maybe she couldn’t handle it.  Maybe she didn’t know what to say. If she was an acquaintance I would have thought her texts were very thoughtful but since I have known her for years her texts seemed impersonal.

If you’ve ever lost someone close maybe you can understand how I feel. Believe me I am not obsessed with this. We are still friends but I just thought I would share my thoughts with you.

Sometimes you just need to pick up the phone!

About Karen Blake

Karen Blake is the host for The Karen & Ralphie Morning Show weekdays from 6 to 10 a.m. on The Q (WQRC 99.9 FM), Cape Cod’s Fresh Mix.


  1. http://rick%20heath says

    Great world we live in Karen. Seems now days, when someone has a tragedy like you experienced, hey, pick up the cell and shoot out a text. Hell, the woman had her cell, or maybe she sent from her home computer? but you said she sent a text which means she had cell in hand. Hell, Give a call! Very sad society we live in.
    Quick case, though not as devastating. A friend of mine got married a few years ago. I had known this person since junior high school days. Rather than pick me as his best man, he chooses someone that he’s only known for a year and a half! A friend of his girlfriend. Haven’t really spoke to him since. You are very kind… I wouldn’t give this woman the time of day… my condolences.

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