Dating on Cape Cod: What You Need To Know!

If you ask most college-aged people about dating on Cape Cod, they would say it’s pretty much nonexistent. Bars and clubs are where many people meet each other and there aren’t many for the younger set. The Foxhole, Embargo, Torino’s and Pufferbellies are some of the rare ones.

Dating on the Cape can best be achieved through dating apps such as Tinder and Bumble. In 2016, meeting your significant other through a dating website or app has become normalized unlike ever before.

One of my best friends met her long-term boyfriend when she was in high school through Tinder. Both Tinder and Bumble have their benefits as well as their drawbacks, however their location-based systems of matching is perfect for those looking for companions on Cape Cod.

For many young women who are here for the summer, Tinder and Bumble offer the perfect way to meet up with eligible Cape Cod Baseball League suitors.

Between the two apps, I strongly believe Tinder is the better option for your dating needs. Tinder allows both parties to message each other, whereas Bumble only allows the girl to send the guy the first message. Although I’m all for women empowerment, I believe both genders should be allowed the opportunity to message one another.

Also, with Bumble, matches disappear if the other person doesn’t respond after 24 hours whereas matches never expire on Tinder. This is important because not everyone is constantly checking their phones and dating profiles and are actually enjoying life in real time away from their phones—something everyone should look for in a potential girlfriend or boyfriend.

When using one of these apps, make sure to set your radius between 10 and 15 miles. After all, you don’t want to drive 30 miles for a dating disaster. Plus you don’t want to make too much of an effort for something that might not end up going anywhere past that first meeting. Your pictures on your profile should be solo shots—or at least the first picture should be.

This way no one mistakes you for your better-looking friend.

When it comes time to meet up with your match, I’d recommend going to a bar where there are lots of other people for backup if needed (if you’re over 21, of course). That way, if the conversation is dull you can at least drown yourself in alcohol consumption to make up for it.

If you are under 21, invite him or her to a party where there are, once again, lots of other people if needed to bolster conversation or if your match just turns out to be a straight up psychopath.
Remember, make sure you know the person well enough and have a good idea about what the person is like through virtual conversation before meeting up with him or her in real life. You don’t want to get your hopes up only to be completely let down when it comes to meeting them in person.

If you’re like me and don’t enjoy the idea of forced random meet-ups with someone who swiped right for you solely based off your looks and nothing else, there is still hope to find someone the old fashion way. Be confident, put down your cell phone, and strike up some face-to-face conversation with someone you think you might like. After all, the summer days are dwindling!

Maggie Pedicini is a CapeCod.com Intern and a College Student.  When not at school, Maggie is living it up on the Cape!